A guide is but a guide. You can never be anything else.
This is one of the most important things for you to know in your business – you cannot create results for someone. You can show them the way. The responsibility is shared.
Some of your clients will achieve great results, some won’t.
It’s not all your doing.
Phew.
Does that take some of the pressure off?
I know you want to be a powerful catalyst for change, you want to help create change your clients’ lives, but sometimes that responsibility gets a little heavy. So today I’m inviting you to look at your stories around this and therefore what you can release to truly be a vehicle of support without feeling drained and judging yourself.
Firstly, I invite you to look at your stories around what it means to have a guide and to be guided.
Part 1: Journal on the following questions
What stories do you have around what results a guide can bring you?
What stories do you have around a guide you feel has ‘failed’ you?
Think about a disappointing experience, either with a mentor/coach or an e-course you’ve done.
What were you expecting?
What part do you play in this agreement?
What was your role in the actual (perceived) outcome?
Could the opposite be true? (here you want to write down a positive re-frame)
Where is the story in here that could have dictated the outcome, restricting it somehow by not allowing you be fully present with fresh eyes?
Remember that a story is always subjective. You will see it one way, another will see it and experience it another way.
Where else in your life have you used a similar type of story to define your experience, do you see a pattern?
Part 2: Journal on the following questions
Think about an experience with a client where they didn’t reach the outcome they wanted, what were you expecting to deliver?
What do you know/think your client expected?
Where do you think you might have taken on responsibility for this outcome that wasn’t yours?
What is the truth here: how true is your story, how true are other stories you tell yourself around this experience?
Where else in your life have you used a similar type of story to define your experience, do you see a pattern?
How aware are you of your role in the stories you tell? Today, invite yourself to inquire into every perceived truth that comes to mind.
